3 Steps To Align Your Vision

3 Steps To Align Your Vision

It’s true when they say that the more you learn about yourself the more in-touch you become with your feelings. But what’s often left out in the mention is that with self-realization comes the struggle of conscious inner conflict — you know, the type of conflicts that arises when we’re faced with making decisions with what we think we“ought” to do, and what’s truly best for the Self-based on our aligning values.

I’ve found that the more I discover about the Self, not only am I more aware of my emotions and feelings but deeply connected to all the shifts going on inside of me. All these ranges of inner feelings that act as a radar, cutting through all the B.S to tell you something’s off and out of whack in your alignment. Let’s face it, we’ve all felt those gutted feelings loaded with butterflies after we’ve made a decision we knew wasn’t right. It’s those uneasy feelings that surface up right away, feelings of overwhelm, frustration, emotionally cloudiness, and anxiousness. What do they get to do, you ask? It’s your intuitive gut. It’s there to say that, ‘girl/boy, you outta damn alignment!’. Time for you to get back to the vision board to recheck in with your vision, goals, and values to see what action has veered you out of alignment from your values and vision. I want to share with you your 3 steps to align your vision + values to bring you back into alignment if you’re feeling out of funk these days. The only requirement is that you take your time and try your best to answer the following questions.


 

3 Steps To Align Your Vision + Your Values For Long-Term Success

1. VISUALISATION + VISION + VALUES

This is your greater picture of life. Your life’s purpose. Who do YOU want to be? How do you want to be living your life? Your vision is meant to move you and inspire you in this world. Dig deep and dream big. Here are a few questions to reflect on to help you craft the path towards your life vision.

VISION:
Look over these next set of questions, and then sit with yourself with close your eyes for 10–30 minutes to reflect and visualize. After that grab a journal and try to answers these next set of questions with honesty from the heart.

✽ Who do you want to be?
✽ Where do you want to live?
✽ What’s your experiences would you have?
✽ What’s your purpose — your WHY?

VALUES:
Ask yourself:

✽ What matters most to you?
✽ How would you spend your time if you had no restraints?
✽ What makes you truly content? What doesn’t?

I.E:

  • My personal time and space
  • Manageable and flexible working hours
  • Freedom and time for creativity
  • Time for personal growth and development
  • Residing beside nature and ocean
  • Daily personal yoga practice
  • Etc…


2. ALIGNING GOALS TO YOUR VISION AND VALUES

For long-term success, it’s important that your goals align with your values and greater vision. The problem comes when we get too ahead of ourselves with distractions and desires that don’t align with our values. For example: If I value working freelance for the flexible hours to benefit my personal development and yoga career, choosing to work a corporate 9–5 job to make more money will not bring my joy, rather the opposite — frustrated, overwhelmed, confused.

GOALS:
Goals need to work hand in hand and align with our values and greater vision.

Ask yourself:
(Think of SMART when you write down your goals: Specific, Measurable, Attainable, Relevant, Time-based)

✽ What are your goals and intentions for the next year? (Be specific)
✽ What do you want to accomplish? (Personal, career, relationship)

3. CONSCIOUS ACTIONS TOWARDS ALIGNMENT

Align your actions to your goal. What are the current actions that you’re taking to get you to the greater vision? If you want to go to travel the world then you might need to save more money or have some other source of income while you travel. In order to ground the energy, do what you would be doing in the case when you’d be certain that it’s already yours. Take the actions that align you to your goals, dreams, purpose.

The hard part then comes when you realize that your current actions don’t align with your values and goals at all — causing a blockage in your path towards your vision. This is when denial and event heartache kicks in when you know you need to give something up for the future greater benefit. Again, it all comes back down to honesty. Listen to your gut, and take it back to the big picture — your vision.

ACTIONS:
Now, for every goal, what are the actions that you will take to reach that goal? Be as specific as you can. I like to list 3 actions for each goal at a minimum.

For example: My goal is to host x3 yoga retreats year in 2020

Actions:

  • Build a strong sense of community among my students in classes
  • Host initial opening retreat in year 2019
  • Offer more workshops outside of Hong Kong to increase student reach

There you have it, folks. 3 steps to lead you into a direction of greater clarity towards your vision. Now, this isn’t an exercise to just simply rush through — It took me nearly a week. First, you have to get past the bullshit and desires and recognize the real. What REALLY are you after in life? That’s the hard part. Take your time. As they say, all good things come time. Let this be an exercise in practice.

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9 Principles Of Manifestation

9 Principles Of Manifestation

I am a huge believer when it comes to intention setting. Ever since my teen years I would write out my goals for the year in my annual agenda, setting the intentions I want to put out for the year. Looking back in hindsight, I can say I’ve seen only success and achievement, as I’ve reached every goal I’ve set out for — only sometimes you don’t realize until you connect the dots later in life.

You might find intention setting all airy-fairy and all, but let me tell you that intention setting is nothing but finding clarity and direction in our lives. Whether you are aware of it or not, we all have our own ways of setting intentions: journaling, visualizing, thinking out loud, writing short-term and long-term goals out, these are all forms of intention setting. Taking time to set intentions yearly, bi-annually, quarterly encourages you to stay in the alignment of your life purpose — where you want to be, who you want to be, and how to get there — Once you have a direction, your mind will align your actions towards your goal. I want to share with you 9 principles that always work towards creating what you desire. The only requirement is that you stick with them.


9 Principles of Manifesting:

1. Have a vision — Know where you want to go, who you want to be, and what you want to do. No one said these questions were going to be easy. Heck, you might not even be able to really truly know exactly where you’re going, but you can have an idea of the direction that you want to head. Without a vision, you might end up somewhere else. Once you know that you’re heading to Hawaii, then you know which plane to take. It’s the same with life. Once you have direction, your mind will align your actions to your goals.

2. Have a strong desire — Desire, it’s something you feel strongly in your gut. A strong energetic pull towards something you are passionate about. Now you know you need to get to Hawaii, now you need the fuel to get you there. The same works for your vision, you need the right fuel so you can manifest it. Have a vision that moves you and each time you think about it, you feel lighter and joyful. These are the emotions that will get you where you want to go. Dare to dream and think big, it will help you to literally energize your vision.

3. Have clear intentions — Intend that your vision happens at your will. Setting intentions are easy, but directing the energy with awareness is where it gets tricky. Every dream needs the right amount of energy to be directed. You don’t want to scatter the energy, but rather to contain the energy and send it in the right direction. This is where focus and intention play a major role.

4. Have a strong belief — You have to truly believe in yourself to manifest it. If you are second doubting your goals, you’re creating resistance and blockages — the intention then truly isn’t there. And thus, you cannot manifest it. Let’s say that you have a clear vision with a strong desire for manifestation.

5. Acceptance — Remember Satya — truthfulness, apply that. Be honest with yourself and your intention. What I’m talking here about is acceptance of your new belief and that it’s true for yourself and you can have it. Just accept that it’s already yours. Don’t focus on reasons why it shouldn’t work out, instead surrender yourself to your desire and fully accept it in your life.

6. Take Aligned Actions — Align your actions to your goal. If you want to go to travel the world then you might need to save more money or have some other source of income while you travel. In order to ground the energy, do what you would be doing in the case when you’d be certain that it’s already yours. Take the actions that align you to your goals, dreams, purpose. We all take means to reach our way to the end.

7. Absolute Detachment — Nothing is ever in your control. So, let go of that need to control every step, and every action, and just surrender. Let the universe do its thing. You established your purpose, you set the intention, you’ve directed the focus. Now, wait. By letting go of when and how, you show that you believe that it is already yours. Because only he who is certain of the outcome can afford to wait.

8. Support Yourself — Reality just reflects back to you your own support. So if you feel like the Universe has forgotten you and your dreams then look at the way you support your dreams. By ignoring your dreams or withdrawing from them, you create the kind of reality that is ignoring you and your dreams as well.

9. Be as Clear as a Laser Beam — The ‘’ideal’’ effortless and conscious manifestation should look like a laser beam. Laser beam is 100% focused on one goal with all its energy and purity. We have to be certain and focused just as the laser beam is. If there is anything holding you back from believing or focusing on your goal then this something will be stopping your from manifesting your desire. Be as clear as a laser beam. You got this.

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25 Life Lessons In 25 Years

25 Life Lessons In 25 Years

This post transcribes a collection of lessons I’ve learned in my (now) 26 years of living. I’m 26 years young, and only slightly more wise than the 18-year old me. I am still just scraping the surface of life experiences as I continue on this journey of what life is going to throw at me.

In the grand scheme of things, the older that I get, the more I come to realize how much I really don’t know. But do any of us really actually know anything? We’re all here to experience and pass on our life advice as we carry on with our day-to-day lives.

So here’s to hopefully many more years of learning, feeling, failing, succeeding, loving, crying, and everything else that comes with our experience of living and being.


25 Quarter-Century Life Lessons

 

1. Get Out Of Your Comfort Zone// Don’t fear failure so much that you refuse to try new things. The saddest summary of a life contains three descriptions: could have, might have, and should have.

2. Self-Discovery// We are constantly surrounded by noise, whether it’s people, music, tv, that we are always influenced by others. Listening to the noise of the world, instead of ourselves. My suggestion is to start by finding what your version of ‘meditation’ is. It could be running, surfing, swimming, yoga, or simply being still. And let that be your entry point for self-discovery.

3. Acceptance // Accept it all. This includes the joyful and the unwelcome thoughts and feelings that arise — It’s a part of being human. Trust me. Accept it all, and you’ll see how it begins to make everything seem much more tolerable.

4. Suffering // We are all suffering. And, will always be suffering as it is apart of being. Sometimes the suffering comes in waves, some bigger than others. But remember, suffering creates resilience and builds to your human character. The scars you carry from the challenges you’ve faced create the story that you carry to the world. There would be no depth to us as a human being, no humility, no compassion if we had not faced the suffering that we did.
Be grateful in spite of your suffering.

Scars on your body show that you have lived; scars on your heart show that you have loved.

5. Solidarity // Don’t confuse being alone for loneliness. Learn to embrace the comfort of your own presence. Be alone. Eat alone, take yourself on dates, sleep alone. In the midst of this, you will learn about yourself. You will grow, you will learn what inspires you. You will cultivate your own dreams, your own beliefs, your own stunning clarity. When you’re always with others, you’re just a product of the other people in your life. And the truth of the matter is, sometimes being surrounded by the wrong people is the loneliest thing in the world. Learn to love yourself.

6. Trusting Your Process // Steve Jobs says it best, “You can’t connect the dots looking forward; you can only connect them looking backward. So you have to trust that the dots will somehow connect in your future. You have to trust in something — your gut, destiny, life, karma, whatever. This approach has never let me down, and it has made all the difference in my life.” — Steve Jobs

7. Strength // Strength does not only constitute the physical attribute or aspect of your body dynamics. But, the courage to endure, overcome and succeed in any challenge or hurdle that comes your way. It’s like that old saying that goes, “What does not kill you makes you stronger’.

8. The Gut // Trust it. It’s your second brain. If the situation makes your body feel weird, anxious, and glitchy, then take a moment to re-access the situation. Remember, your mind is not always your best friend. Feel more. Tune in more.

9. Failure // Failure, and mistakes are your best teacher. Your biggest mistake might be the best mistake that will lead you in the right life direction.

10. Talk Less, Listen to More // And this means actually listening. To be fully present with whom you are speaking and listening. The majority of the time, we are physically there, but our mind is elsewhere.

11. Traveling// The best education you will ever receive is traveling. Nothing teaches you more than exploring the world and accumulating experiences.

12. Self-Growth // As you grow spiritually, you will realize you are not the same person that you used to be. You might not find interest in old topics of conversations that you once used to laugh around with friends. What you once found as tolerable, might not be tolerated anymore. Old relationships drift apart, as new relationships blossom. Don’t be discouraged of change. You are becoming closer to the whole inner being that you are.

13. Relationships // Be thankful for every heartbreak, for they were planned. They come into your life just to reveal another layer of yourself to you and then leave. Their purpose is to shake you up, tear apart your ego a little bit, show you your obstacles and addictions, break your heart open so new light can get in, make you so desperate and out of control that you have to transform your life. And you do.

14. Friendships // You become what you surround yourself with. Energies are contagious. Surround yourself with friends that help you become the better version of you. Those who add to your life, rather than subtract.

15.Valuing Your Time // Time is precious. Don’t feel bad to say no if it’s coming out of a place of feeling that you ‘need to’, or ‘owe it’ to someone. Find the courage to say no when needed to.

16. Anxiety // Breath. Anxiety happens when you think you have to figure out everything all at once. Remember that you don’t, and life will continue to go on just the way it was. Just take it day by day.

17. Owning Your Doubts // We all have doubts. Don’t let that influence the way that you are living. Instead, own your doubts and grow from it. Make them apart of your journey than your insecurity.

18. Self Care // Fall in love with taking care of yourself, being with yourself, and learning about yourself. Fall in love with being the best version of yourself. Sometimes life sucks and emotions get the best of us. Be patient. Fall in love with the deep path of healing and self-discovery.

19. Happiness // Your relationship with happiness comes from within. You don’t need much, other than your basic needs covered to be wealthy in happiness. Know that the truly rich are those who enjoy what they have.

20. Gratitude // If you don’t appreciate what you already have, you’ll never be happy with what you get. Appreciate that every single day on this planet is a gift.

20. Self-Development // The biggest investment you can make it on yourself. Invest in becoming a better version of yourself physically, intellectually, culturally, mindfully, yadda yadda yadda. Go out to travel, read books, pick up an online course. Thrive for self-development.

21. Concept Of ‘Busy’ // Being busy is a ‘state of mind’. The truth is, you will always make time for what is a priority to you. We should all stop coining the term ‘busy’ as an excuse to people, and simply be honest with your answer.

22. Don’t Take Everyone’s Advice Too Seriously// Everyone is going to have their two-cents on how you should be living your life. Take everyone’s advice with a grain of salt. Remember, nobody knows how to live the life you want.

23. Aligning > Husting // Destroy the idea that you have to be constantly working hard or ‘grinding it out’ in order to be successful. Embrace the concept that rest, recovery, and reflection are essential parts of the progress towards a successful and ultimately happy life.

24. Taking Time To Reflect When Emotions Rise// Learning to take a step back and assess emotions when rising. It’s important to have communication but it can be beneficial to take a break to allow you and the person you’re talking to time to collect thoughts and reassess the situation calmly. Emotions are healthy to have but conversations purely fueled by emotion without anything constructive tend to just leave people hurt rather than resolve any issues.

25. Don’t Take Anything Personally // Lastly, don’t take anything personally. Nothing others do is because of you. What others say and do is a projection of their own reality.

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Embracing The In-Between Moments

Embracing The In-Between Moments

It’s no secret that life is made up of the moments in between the moments. You know, those idle moments in-between yoga poses, or walking from point A to point B, or even when you’re waiting to go into your next appointment. It’s those in-between moments that are the most difficult to stay focused and mindful. So instead, we find fillers. We go on autopilot. Eyes on the phone. Music in the ears. Mind in the clusterfuck of thoughts.⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀

Meanwhile, life happens in those boring in-between moments.

Meanwhile, life happens in those boring in-between moments. From the moment you silence your alarm in the morning to the moment you fall asleep. 

From the moment you witness your first sunrise to the last sunset.
From the moment you graduate to your first job.
From your first job to the day you retire.

Rather than escaping from the in-between moments through idle things and digital screens, start to embrace the moment. Take it as an opportunity to find an in-between moment of presence with yourself amidst the craziness of our lives.

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5 Things You Need To Hear Right Now.

5 Things You Need To Hear Right Now.

There’s a lot of noise on here. 

Everyone has got their 2-cents of advice on how you should be living your best life. Let’s face it. We are told what the ‘definition’ of success is before we really know who we are. Is this not where our insecurities begin?

We are told what the ‘definition’ of success is before we really know who we are.

If i’m going to be adding to the cluster of noise, I want my noise to mean well, while advocating a positive thought-process. Not social comparison. We’ve got to stop comparing ourselves to others. I want to share what makes me feel food in hopes to make you feel good. More importantly, to make you appreciate and find happiness in the small things of your everyday life. And if I’m lucky, maybe for you to find out a little bit more about yourself.


So here it is: 5 Things Most People Need To Hear Right Now.

 

  1. The most valuable thing you can invest in is time. Make time to get past the noise in your mind to truly discover who you are.

     

  2. Don’t shy away from pain and emotional discomfort. Pain makes sense. It’s an honest gut response to a given situation that you’re dealing with (and probably, what you’ve been ignoring)

     

  3. Prioritise yourself first. If you are not taking time to take care of yourself, you won’t be in position to take care of others.

     

  4. Allow yourself to grow. This means letting go of things that no longer serve you. Know when to let go of things that are holding you back. 
  5. Lastly, you are enough. You really are.
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A Life Lessons On Solitude

A Life Lessons On Solitude

It’s a dangerous sign if you can never be alone. I come from a very tight-knit family, and I always have had close friends. But I realized that I needed to be alone to grow. So I went on abroad trips by myself. And still, do by choice. 
 When you’re alone, you have time to know who you are. When you’re always with others, you’re just a product of the other people in your life. Once you get in the comfort of being alone, solidarity becomes very addictive. It becomes a habit after you realize how peaceful and calm it is.

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